10 Totally Legit Tips from the Vintage Book "Don'ts for Husbands
21 Aug 2014 •2 min read
We recently shared our favorite tips from the vintage book Don'ts for Wives; despite the fact that the book was published in 1913, the advice is surprisingly relevant to modern life. And the tips in the companion book for husbands are just as useful! Author Blanche Ebbutt writes in the intro, "No doubt you know a good deal about women, but (if you are in the early years of your married life) not nearly as much as you will in another decade." Ain't that the truth. Read on for 10 tips from Don'ts for Husbands we think every groom would be wise to heed. 1. Don't increase the necessary work of the house by leaving your things lying about in different places. If you are not tidy by nature, at least be thoughtful for others. 2. Don't condescend; you are not the only person in the house with brains. 3. Don't look at things solely from a man's point of view. Put yourself in your wife's place and see how you would like some of the things she has to put up with. 4. Don't grudge your wife a new dress because you haven't noticed that she needs one. You don't know how much trouble she has taken to try and appear—to other people—as if she didn't need one; but she knows. 5. Don't belittle your wife before visitors. You may think it a joke to speak of her little foibles, but she will not easily forgive you. 6. Don't think that because you can't afford an expensive present, it is best to take no notice at all. The smallest gift will be appreciated if prompted by love. 7. Don't omit to have a hobby of some kind. It will take you out of your wife's way when she is busy or you are cross, and you will feel a different man in half an hour. 8. Don't imagine your wife never wants to see any other man than you. However nice she thinks you, it is possible to have too much of a good thing. 9. Don't think that because you and your wife married for love, there will never be a cloud in the sky. Neither of you is perfect, and you will have to learn to avoid treading on each other's corns. 10. Don't insist upon having the last word. If you know when to drop an argument, you are a wise man. What's your best tip for husbands, Loverlies? Let us know in the comments!